Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
step 4 – ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
Don’t know about you, but I hate turning the critical eye inward. Presumably you will ask, “Why is that, Larry?”
Up until I had several years sobriety behind me, LarryPaulBrown was the world’s foremost expert at condemning himself. “You never do anything right, you are a failure,” were my life’s defining words. “Why can’t you be more like Joe, the school sports jock, or Mary, the class valedictorian, or Pastor Jones, the community rock? Why, why, why?”
Doing an honest 4th step, a searching and fearless assessment of me was a daunting task until my spiritual advisor set before me on paper two columns – one for the negatives and one for the positives.
“But,” I protested, “I can’t think of any positives.” Thank God for the patience and insight of our sponsors who guide us through these growing pains.
Even today it is infinitely more comforting to look at you and take your inventory. Yes, old habits die hard. The ego loves this – ‘I’ and ‘me’ become bigger and superior – it creates separation and otherness. My defects are not as severe or humiliating as yours. “Well, I never did that. Tsk, tsk.”
Ultimately an overly active ego, a continual subversion of one’s inner truth to ‘I, I, I and me, me, me’ creates violence between individuals and warfare between nations.
Verse 41 in the 6th chapter of Luke says, “Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”
What’s in my eye today? What’s in yours?