So many of us have lived our lives placing unmerited value on the opinions of others while discrediting our personal truth and reality. Breaking the shackles of people-pleasing requires honest self-appraisal, a healthy dose of self-esteem, and an enormous commitment to self-realization.
BREAKING THE SHACKLES –
You never do anything right, you are a failure.
No, this is a fallacy straight from hell used most often by parents, sometimes spouses and (surprisingly) adult children to mold us into the type of people who fit their ideal of successful. If you or I are living life to fit the expectations of other people, we will never be complete and fulfilled. We will always be people-pleasers.
God did not make a mistake in creating the uniqueness that is you or me. Everything about us is exactly as designed, perfect in every way. Abilities, creative energies, passions were not handed out randomly or haphazardly. Life’s great challenge is to recognize those gifts and use them unselfishly.
Instead of lamenting our alleged deficiencies, instead of listening to a nagging spouse or complaining child, every morning let’s gaze at the reflection in the mirror and whisper words of admiration and love to the image we see, “You are wonderful, I love you.”
I AM LARRY – worthy, unique, loved